Why Am I Always Thinking About Food? 6 Ways to Reduce Food Noise
If you feel as though you're always thinking about food — what to eat, when you'll eat next, what you should or shouldn't eat, or whether you've eaten too much — you're experiencing what is increasingly described as food noise.
Food noise can have many influences. Hunger is one of them, but your environment, emotions, habits, sleep, the language you use around food and even dieting itself can all affect how much mental space food occupies. Restricting food can make those thoughts more persistent too, which is one reason another diet isn't necessarily the answer.
Reducing food noise starts with understanding what's driving it for you. By becoming more aware of your own patterns, you can begin to respond to thoughts about food differently rather than feeling as though they are constantly directing your choices.
Did you know you have over 6,200 thoughts in a day? And that you make over 200 decisions about food a day? Most of which are unconscious. And that when you deprive yourself of food by going on diet you focus your mind on food even more, even causing yourself to fantasise and dream about food?
What we focus on creates the results we get and we can choose to have more helpful thoughts, thoughts that get us the outcome we want, but first we need to build our awareness of our unconscious thoughts so that we can work out what is driving our behaviours.
When you understand what influences your thoughts and how they drive your behaviours, you can start to make changes that will reduce the number of thoughts you have about food and you can respond differently to the thoughts you do have.
And of course, thinking about food is normal. The role of our unconscious mind is to keep us safe, which means to protect us from starvation; your body needs food so noticing hunger isn't something you need to eliminate. The aim isn't to never think about food again. It's to reach a place where thoughts about food feel less consuming, less intrusive and you have more freedom to choose what happens next.
Could Your Environment Be Triggering Thoughts About Food?
We don't make our food choices in isolation. What we see, smell and experience around us can prompt thoughts about food, sometimes before we've consciously noticed what's happening.
Perhaps you've experienced this while watching TV or scrolling through social media. You see food being advertised and suddenly you're thinking about eating. Or you walk past a café or takeaway, smell the food cooking and find yourself wondering whether you're hungry.
These cues don't mean you have to eat, and noticing them isn't a sign that you lack willpower. They are simply part of an environment in which we're surrounded by reminders of food.
The useful part is becoming aware of which cues tend to affect you.
You might notice, for example, that certain places, times of day, adverts or situations regularly prompt thoughts about food. Rather than judging the thought or immediately responding to it, give yourself a moment to notice what's happening.
I've seen something, I've started thinking about food. What would I like to do next?
That small moment of awareness can create space between the trigger and your response. And when you bring self-compassion into that moment rather than criticism or shame, you can make a choice based on what you need rather than feeling that you're on autopilot.
Are Emotions Behind Some of Your Food Noise?
Not every thought about food begins with physical hunger. Sometimes food becomes connected with an emotion, a situation or something we're trying to avoid.
I notice this myself when I'm procrastinating. I'll find myself wandering into the kitchen, looking through the cupboards for something to eat — biscuits, chocolate, something to pick at. I can feel as though I'm hungry and can't settle down to work until I've found something.
Once I became curious about that pattern, I began to notice that sometimes I wasn't physically hungry at all. I was overwhelmed by a big task I hadn't broken down, or I had too many competing priorities and didn't know where to begin. Thinking about food had become part of my procrastination pattern.
Recognising that meant I had more choice as I can notice it happening and intervene.
You might begin to notice what is happening around your own food thoughts. Perhaps they appear when you're bored, stressed, lonely, tired, overwhelmed or avoiding something. Rather than asking yourself,How do I stop thinking about food?, you could become curious about a different question:
What am I feeling and what might I need right now?
Sometimes the answer may still be food. Other times, you may discover there is something else asking for your attention.
Could Your Daily Routine Be Making You Think About Food More?
Your daily routine can also influence how much mental space food occupies.
Sleep is one part of that. When you haven't slept well, you may notice changes in your hunger, appetite and food choices the following day. You may feel more tired, find yourself thinking about food more often or be drawn towards foods that offer quick energy or comfort.
Rather than treating that as another failure of willpower, it can be useful information: I'm exhausted today. What does my body need?
Your eating routine can matter too.
If you're a busy woman moving from one commitment to another, food decisions can easily be left until you're already very hungry. You then have to decide what to eat at precisely the point when you have the least energy or headspace to think about it.
A little planning can reduce some of that mental load. That doesn't mean rigid meal plans or deciding on Sunday exactly what you'll eat at 7pm on Thursday. It might simply mean having nourishing options available, thinking ahead about a particularly busy day or making sure you don't routinely put eating at the bottom of your to-do list.
The aim isn't to control food more tightly. It's to create a routine that supports you so that food doesn't continually have to compete for your attention.
Is the Way You Talk About Food Creating More Food Noise?
The language you use around food matters because it can influence where you place your attention. Think about what happens when you tell yourself:
I can't eat that.
I've been bad today.
I shouldn't have eaten that.
I'm having a cheat day.
Suddenly that food has acquired far more significance.
Restriction can make the very foods you're trying not to think about occupy even more mental space. You may find yourself planning when you can have them again, negotiating with yourself or feeling guilty when you eventually eat them.
Notice, too, how often your food choices are accompanied by words such as good, bad, naughty, cheat, can't and shouldn't.
What happens if you begin using more neutral language?
I can't have cake might become: I can have cake. I'm choosing whether I want it.
Nothing about the cake has changed. What has changed is your relationship with the choice.
Moving away from judgement doesn't mean what food you eat no longer matters. It means you can consider nutrition, nourishment, pleasure, hunger and what your body needs without turning every eating decision into a test you've either passed or failed.
Could the Way You Eat Be Leaving You Thinking About Food?
It's not only what you eat that can influence your thoughts about food., how you eat matters too. Many of us eat in a hurry, at our desks, in the car or while scrolling through our phones. Sometimes we've finished a meal without really noticing the experience of eating it.
When you slow down enough to pay attention to your food, you give yourself an opportunity to notice its taste and texture, enjoy the experience and become more aware of your hunger and fullness. That doesn't mean every meal needs to become a mindful-eating exercise. Real life isn't like that. Sometimes lunch genuinely will be quick.
It's about noticing what has become your normal.
You can also become curious about whether the food you're eating leaves you feeling nourished and satisfied. Rather than thinking about what you need to remove from your diet, you might consider what you could add that would support you.
Perhaps most importantly, give yourself permission to enjoy your food. Eating can be nourishing and pleasurable when you're trying to lose weight and is key to sustainable weight loss.
When you stop treating food as something that constantly needs to be controlled, you may find it begins to occupy a different place in your thoughts.
Is Focusing on Weight Loss Making You Think About Food More?
There's an interesting contradiction at the heart of dieting: You want to lose weight, so you start paying more attention to food. You set a target, make rules about what you can and can't eat, monitor your choices and perhaps start counting calories, points, macros or portions. And suddenly you're thinking about food all day!
What can I eat?
Have I eaten too much?
Was that good or bad?
What am I having later?
Have I ruined today?
The more tightly you try to control food, the more space it can begin to occupy in your mind.
What might happen if you broadened your goal?
Rather than making the number on the scales your only measure, you could begin thinking about the life and wellbeing you're trying to create.
How would you like to feel?
How would you like to nourish yourself?
What would you like your relationship with food to feel like?
What habits would support the woman you want to become?
Weight loss may still be something you want. You don't have to pretend it isn't, but when your attention shifts fromWhat do I have to do to lose weight? towards How do I want to look after myself and live?, you create space for choices that aren't driven solely by restriction.
And perhaps that's one of the most important ways to begin quietening food noise: making your life bigger, rather than continually making food smaller.
Ready to Discover What's Behind Your Food Noise?
If you're constantly thinking about food, another set of food rules may not be what you need. A useful place to start is becoming curious about what's driving those thoughts for you.
Is it restriction? Hunger? Your environment? Stress or overwhelm? A familiar habit? Lack of sleep? Or the rules and language you've learned to use around food?
You don't need to work it all out at once. Start by noticing.
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The Mindset Diet book takes you through a four-stage process — Observe, Declutter, Build and Maintain — with self-coaching activities to help you uncover the habits, beliefs and patterns influencing the way you eat. Once you uncover your patterns, you can start to calm the food noise.
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The goal isn't to never think about food. It's to give food less power over your thoughts and give you more choice about what happens next.
